We are smack dab in the middle of sports minded world and  no doubt about it we've lost focus on what it means to have our kids participate in sports. For every age, year round and pretty much every where you can find team sports. My son is 3 and could right now care less if he can put a glove on or kick a soccer ball in the goal, wonder what he would think about Flag Football? 3-4 year old sign up starts this week LMAO!! At 3 with the number of obese kids out there, exercise should be the number one  reason  toddler sports and the love of the game will follow. I'm sure there are some kids out there more advanced  than others but who has signed their kid up for a program only to find yourself sitting on the side line every week watching. I know i'm not the only one...all mine wants to do is run, jump and chase which we do everyday at The Park. It's FREE!!!!

There is no excuse for rudness!! to or from a child or an adult.We are on the rim of the  toliet as a society and and ready to jump Who the F!@#! is gonna step up and take control?? To teach our children manners and not racism and hate,  teach our kids to educate themselves and not how to steal and sell dope, rape and murder. As adults  when will it be time to step up and lead by example. Maybe with the manners our parents and grandparents insisted we learn and use we can rescue ourselves from being an entire country of J!@K A@#$S!!!

THAT!!! from a guy i met this morning at while trying to enjoy the park with my son. He talked as if his SH!T didn't stink and beacuse he was a single DAD that the world owed him and his kids something. He pretty much had nothing nice to say about anyone there and i'm sure if i was distant i would have been a sorry s.o.b. as well. I swear everytime i thought i got away here he was ranting. Finally i faked a phone call swooped my lil dude up and was gone.

Does doing what a parent is supposed to do mean you deserve some special treatment, benefits or recognition. I'm starting to see while Men are stepping up to the plate and meeting their obligations while trying to kill the stigmata that MOMS do it better some guys are turning into self centered egotistical pri@!#!! that deserve the world and then some. Maybe intead of trying to convince the world that us DADS can do this maybe we need to convince some DADS to just chill we are doing this and we will better be accepted in a more friendly manner...

A pretty intense debate took place between some guys in my group and the spouses this week about Time Magazines article about Chore Wars even when it came to the kids it was a struggle to get them to do anything around the house. My son is 3 and is in charge of recycleing on trash day and he maintains it thru out the week. I do beleive if you wait to get kids to do stuff around the house it will turnn into a lost cause.

This is what i took from our discussion....

If you engauge the kids with an activity they will do it. Saying i do it so it gets done right is wrong for the long haul.

Wives that work were pissed because they would come home and they felt nothing was done.

DADS that worked were pissed for the same reason but more for having to hear constant lip service about not helping around the house that did in a couple guys result in working longer hours to get peace LOL!!!

I stay home full time and my wife works. I'm up at 430 i work out, make my sons lunch and get her stuff ready for work. when i hear her in the shower i get her breakfast ready and pretty much get her outta my way for the day. she calls an hour before she's headed home and i start dinner. My days consist of laundry,housework,shopping,yard work, changing oil if do and running errands on her honey due list which i have daily. I don't think it;s fair for her to have to work and come home to do chores. On the other hand i don't think a DAD should have to work and come home and do chore unless both work then both should share the chores.

I was surprised at how salty a lot of the wives were with their current home status and took it out on the DADS which in turn used work as an excuse to stay away LOL!!!

How do you keep the "chore wars" from happening in your home???

I know babies cry for various reasons their hungry, pissed off, scared, cutting teeth or sick and i'm sure the list goes on. My son didn't cry much at all he was really chill but the baby gurl of mine unless your holding her she is screaming at the top of her lungs and it's frustrating as you know what. I've tried ignoring her giving her time to self sooth but end up picking her up after about 5 min. I try to stay in her face as much as possible which works when i have nothing to do but when i have stuff to do it gets in the way. Her crying is so bad The Wife gave me a speach?pep talk before returning to work LMAO!! i've been an At-Home-DAD for three years now i get the talk. Im hoping it's growing pains and not an early issue of anixiety or she's just plain and simple bored and is gonna let us know about it. Guess we'll see she's loved no matter how much she cries but i'm thankfull for my Beats By Dre headphones i got for Fathers Day...LOL!!

Any ideas on what this may be???

This was an article in our local paper in St Louis this morning.....

Dear Carolyn • I am a mom and my husband is a stay-at-home dad. We have three young children. Our age-old problem is the division of housework.

I work nine-hour days and usually work from home one night a week. On the weekend, I do all the cooking and usually all of the dishes. I also do the dishes on the weeknights I don't bring work home.

He does shopping, plans an activity for the kids after school once a week, prepares dinner Monday through Thursday, does heaps of laundry, meets friends for lunch once a week, conducts family business (doctors, etc.), surfs the Net, and works out at the gym two or three times a week. I don't begrudge him the lunch with friends since he doesn't get the socialization that I receive at the office.

My husband complains that he has to clean the house all by himself while nobody helps out.

My husband and I both find cleaning a tedious way to spend weekends and don't want to get irritated by our kids. What can we do to enjoy our family time more and not make one another resentful? — Anonymous

Answer • Well, you have to work full time and presumably no one helps you out. Managing a home and children is just as much of a full-time job as yours, albeit with no pay or vacations, 401(k), future, promotions or meetings.

So the path of least resentment is to compare your two jobs to make sure the entire family workload is being distributed equally. How many hours of your daily nine do you spend actively working? Are you pressing ever onward and eating at your desk, or do you get stretch/surf breaks and lunch with colleagues? What are your husband's afternoons like — do the kids play and do homework quietly, or do they wring Daddy dry? Who's the Parent in Chief on weekends and weeknights? Were the preschool years exhausting to the point where he's still recovering?

Not only will this help each of you understand the true nature and demands of what the other does every day, it will also, ideally, flush out any lurking resentments that aren't just about soap scum. Is he feeling underappreciated? Are you? Did he feel pressured into househusbandry, or you into breadwinning?

While I'm in no position to say which of you has grounds to complain, I'm going to stomp in anyway, ill-advisedly, with a suggestion: It appears (hedging!) as if your husband could add a relatively painless 30 minutes of housekeeping to his weekdays, while the kids are at school (hello!), and cut the weekend cleaning load substantially. You, too, could reduce that pile by putting in an extra 30 minutes yourself on one weeknight and both weekend days.